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AN EVENING IN OTTO'S GARDEN

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A COUPLE WEEKS back we spent an evening at the home of my mom's new father in law, Otto. He is one of the most wonderful and interesting men I have ever met. My mom has spent the summer learning to garden from Otto, who has a large vegetable patch he has been gardening in for years. There is everything from basil and sage to rhubarb, tomatoes, swiss chard and eggplant! And they planted them all from seeds!

Since Finny loves food so much (eating it, pretending to cook it, actually cooking it with me...) it was such a thrill to take him back there and show him where all the fresh produce comes from and to have my mom teach him how it grows! He was in awe of the tomatoes on the vine and spent a good chunk of his time picking and eating the green beans, which he loves (he takes after his mama in that ;) ). He was a little nervous pulling the beets out of the ground, but he loved it once he realized what it was that he was pulling on!

I love fostering a love and appreciation for food in my littles, and it was so special to me to see how excited he was at seeing where it all comes from. I can't wait to have him out there planting seeds in the Spring!

^^ Trying to get a good family picture with a seven month old and a two year old looks a lot like this, ha!

LONELINESS + MOTHERHOOD

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WHEN YOU BECOME a mother for the first time, you hear a lot about the fatigue, the physical changes, the joy, the fun and the love that you never imagined. One thing I hadn't heard much of before though was the loneliness that comes with being a stay-at-home-mom. I don't know if I didn't notice it for the first eight months of Finny's life because we were traveling back and forth between Montréal and Toronto so much, or because I had such tight friendships there with people who lived so close to us, but moving to Toronto has been a bit of an eye opener to me.

I've known for a long time that making friends after the university days takes longer to do. I noticed when I moved to Montréal as a newlywed, but I had all the time in the world to make new friends and spend endless hours with them getting to know them so it didn't really make that big of a difference to me. Now that I am two kids deep in a new city I am painfully aware of how long it takes to get really deep and close with people. Don't get me wrong, we are so grateful to have our family here to spend time with and to help with the kiddos, and I have met so many wonderful women here, friends who I know one day will feel like sisters. I wouldn't go back to a care-free life sans kiddos if I had the choice, I feel so privileged to be doing what I am doing. But having two kids with two different schedules and needs means that time with friends, old and new, means "mom conversation" is in full swing - where you spend one half of it talking to your friend, and the other half playing with, talking to and helping your kids. So those friendships are taking way longer to develop and grow.

Part of a great conversation I had with one of my closest friends, Emily, a few weeks back: "Some seasons are just better than others for making friends. Not every season will give you the opportunity to invest in relationships outside of your immediate family. Raising kids and moving cities and adding to your work load don't create ideal conditions for new friendships - and that is OK. But, press on, because they are worth it."

So here I am, coming to terms with the fact that it takes so much longer to become make best friends/soul sisters as you get older, and not every season brings best friends and that is OK.  Those friendships, the really deep friendships, are to be maintained, cultivated and cherished, as they become more and more rare as you get older. And as Emmy said, I am "praying for deep friendships in every season, even if that means praying for a miracle."

Photo by Kevin Lee @livekeen / livekeen.ca

 

 

A WEEK IN VERMONT

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A FEW WEEKS ago we gathered up our troop for a six hour road trip out to Montreal then Lake Champlain in Vermont. Sam's family has a beautiful cottage on the lake that was the perfect escape for us. The weather was gorgeous, sunny but not too hot, and we got to spend time together as a family of four, as well as with Sam's Aunt and Grandmother who joined us.  Sam and I also managed to get lots of one on one time that is so rare for us which made the trip feel extra special.

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If you haven't noticed, we are normally the go-go-go type family and we love to jam pack our free time with lots of friends, family and adventures! This trip however we decided to not do the day trips we had planned and instead just lay low and take advantage of the opportunity to relax, savouring those last few moments of summer while we still can!

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We filled our days with time spent outside exploring, relaxing on the grass (this UV tent (similar here) for babies is such a lifesaver for letting Atticus join us without burning his fresh little skin!), throwing rocks into the water, playing in our makeshift pool (this raft filled with a bit of water, genius!), swinging on the old wooden swing, family time on the hammock, baking cakes, eating delicious snacks (mainly watermelon!), taking many naps *all the praise hands!* and talking. And once the boys were in bed for the night Sam and I had lots of time to reconnect and watch the sunset and talk. It was so wonderful.

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One thing I love in particular about Sam's time off is that both boys get some individual concentrated time with dad. Something about hanging with dad seems to help them grow and develop new skills at such a rapid rate - like this week Finny busted out numerous five or six word sentences. And Acey is now pushing himself into plank position on his knees (I think we'll have a crawler very soon!) Update: Since I wrote this post a month ago, Acey is officially crawling!

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We really feel so blessed to have so many places we can travel to for free, thanks to the generosity of our friends and family. It was such a perfect week away, the right amount of time for us to relax and spend loads of time bonding with our little family.

FINN | TWO YEARS

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TODAY MY SWEET Finny turns TWO!  "Two on your birthday! Two years!" as Finny says ;-)

I don't have enough words to express how much I love this little boy or the joy that he brings to us. Two years ago our lives changed in the best way imaginable. Arriving three weeks early and born bright eyed and curious, Phineas created another chamber in my heart that is just for me to love him. Cheesy? Perhaps. True? Absolutely.

He is one of the brightest kids I have ever known, who loves to eat, loves to laugh, loves to make other people laugh, loves inside jokes, colours, trains, his family and his bunny. Everyday with Finn is the best day and obviously I love him because he is my son, but I actually like him as a person and really enjoy getting to hang out everyday with him.

Being a mum to my boys is one of the greatest privileges of my life.

Happy birthday Finny bubba, I love you and I am SO proud of you.

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FINNY'S FAVOURITE BOOKS

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ONE OF FINNY'S favourite activities is reading. He likes to read with you, he likes to read on his own. He memorizes the books and will say the last word on every page before you can say it. I love this about him since Sam and I both love reading. We try to limit TV in our house to rainy days and desperate times where we all feel like we need a break, so reading is such a great way to teach him things and to spend time together. Also, I love hearing what kids of similar ages are reading, so if you have any recommendations please leave a comment below!!

Here are Finny's favourite books this month.

 

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Spot The Cat: This book has no words but is a picture book that I think has really helped him with spying things and with memorizing. It is beautiful and tells the story of a boy who loses his cat, Spot, who you see exploring all over town while his owner looks for him. Finny loves to be the first one to find the cat on the page and gets so excited saying "Cat! Spot, Cat!" when he finds him.

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A Bear's Year: A beautiful book that tells the story of a bear's year with her cubs. It talks about the seasons and has lots of things to look at. This is one of his and my favourite's to curl up on the couch and read!

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What Pet Should I Get: Finny LOVES animals, so Dr. Seuss's What Pet Should I Get was an immediate hit in our house. With the quick rhymes and bright pages he took to it immediately... here's hoping he doesn't get any ideas about getting a pet soon... ha! Finny loves this book since it rhymes so nicely and will run up to me on the couch and go "Pet book!"

Alphablock: This book is SO much fun. There are pop out letters and beautiful graphics to help teach kids their alphabet. Finny is really interested in letters lately and always wants us to spell things for him so this book has been really helpful in aiding us to teach him!

Pride and Prejudice BabyLit: Considering I come from a family of girls who would sit for hours and watch the BBC special of Pride and Prejudice (also where I developed a large crush on Colin Firth), I had to have this book once I saw it. Finny loves counting along with each page as he learns the basic story line of the book. A huge hit with boys and girls alike!

Pantone Colors: Finny has been working so hard at learning his colours lately. This book was a HUGE help with that!

ABC's of Canada: A really fun book that has taught Finn so much about our country! He likes to go along with each letter and tell you what they stand for... A is for "Arctic" in the icy cold north... brr!    Whenever we get to M (which is for Maple Syrup, obviously) there is a picture of a maple tree being tapped and he thinks its hilarious to insist that it's water while you insist it's maple syrup. This little guy loves his inside jokes!

TWO TO A ROOM

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WE DID IT. We finally made the transition to both boys sharing a room! And what a blast it is! Truth be told, Atticus started sleeping through the night at 10 weeks old so technically this could have happened a long time ago, but I was savouring the days that Finny slept in until 8:30 or 9am for as long as I could.

I made the call to put them in the room together because I think the boys need to bond more. Since they both are on great nap schedules, and since their naps tended to cross over so one was awake while the other slept, they have only spent four hours a day together up until this point and about an hour of that Atticus was nursing so it wasn't time that they were interacting.

Now that Atticus is really active (would you believe he is almost crawling!? *insert sob face emoji*) he is getting a little bit more in Finn's space and into all the toys. Finny enjoys his brother and has been so good with him up to this point, helping fetch diapers, rocking Atticus in his bouncy chair, fetching Atticus toys that are baby friendly. But, I have noticed over the last few weeks that Finn has been getting progressively more frustrated with the fact that there is now a little person who he has to include and share everything with (and Atticus isn't just interested in baby toys anymore, he wants all the toys, ha!)

So what is my answer? Make them spend more time together. The idea here is that the more time they spend together the tighter they will get, especially time in the morning and at night when it's just the two of them in there. A little band of brothers, them against the world!

Would you believe that within two days of them sharing a room I have already seen a huge difference in Finny's disposition? He now says "Bring Acey!" or "Acey too!" which makes my mama heart burst with pride! I can see on our baby monitor when Finny wakes up in the morning and walks over to the crib and tries to roll it to rock it, or gives Ace his cherished Bunny (which he usually wants back within 1 minutes, causing a few tears when bunny is stuck inside the crib). Or when we go to the park and Finny wants to go on the swing and he goes "Acey swing too Mama!".

It has also made our bedtime routine a lot of fun. Now, rather than putting Finny down first and then nursing Atticus down, I sit on the bed and read them stories while Atticus nurses and then we say our family mantra, we pray, and then give kisses all around. Acey loves to roll around on the bed and Finny thinks its hilarious when Ace keeps rolling over to be closer to his big bro.

Oh these boys, they are such a delight and I can't wait to watch them grow in their love for one another!

A POWER WEEKEND IN MONTREAL

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OH MONTREAL, YOU feel like home. This past weekend we loaded the kids into the car and headed to Montreal for the weekend for a friends wedding. It was a whirlwind of a weekend and we jam packed it full of friends and family to make sure we made the most of it! Sorry for the long post, but you'd be surprised how much we fit into the weekend!

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We arrived Friday evening and first thing Saturday morning we were out the door bounding to The Plateau to go meet up with my best friend Emily (who writes over at Our Nest in the City) and her three kiddos. We met for coffees, breakfast sandwiches and doughnut balls at Larry's before heading to the park to let the kids roam free. Since Sam was there to hang with the kids and Atticus was sleeping in the stroller, I had the opportunity for an *almost* uninterrupted conversation, catching up with Emmy - practically unheard of with five kids around!

We spent probably an hour sitting on the park bench, sipping coffees and talking. She is one of my favourite people for a million reasons but one of the biggest ones is that all our biggest passions are mutual. Jesus, family, theology, passion for food, writing, style, coffee... All shared. And because of this our conversations are so fun, one minute we can be laughing hysterically over something ridiculous, the next we'll be talking food and new recipes, and the next we will be digging deep and challenging each other or crying with each other over a trial in our lives. It is so refreshing to be able to be so real with someone.

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Saturday evening we ventured out to the West Island to meet up with our friends Dwight and Jess to hang with their fam and meet their FOURTH little baby, Stella. It was so nice to catch up and eat bbq pizza and relax. Jess and I also managed to steal some time to catch up on life, family, ministry at their church, Church 21, and relax together which was so wonderful, not to mention getting to snuggle a sweet little two month old who has all the same rolls that Finny did!

Sunday morning our little family stopped by Dispatch coffee for pour overs, a babyccino and some avocado toast. Stealing away just the four of us doesn't happen too often so this was a real treat! We sat on the patio in the sun and took an hour to just be together and catch up.

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Sam went to get ready with the groom and I took the boys to Église du Plateau-Mont-Royal, the church that Emily and her husband, Brad, have planted in The Plateau. Although my French is far from perfect (I probably understood about 60-70%), it was so refreshing and encouraging to worship Jesus with people in another language, and to see what God is doing through their ministry in Montreal, I loved every minute of my time there. After the service we popped over to St. Viateur Bagels to stock up and grab bagels for lunch on our way home and when I got to my car I realized that not only did I leave my window open, but I had left the lights on and killed my car battery. Two kids, without my husband, on a hot day, at nap time, with a dead car battery. I was on the verge of tears. Thankfully I found someone to help who called a volunteer service that comes and jumps your car for free. When that white SUV pulled up and four men jumped out with their car battery jump box I nearly cried... They looked my knights in shining armor pulling up!

Sunday evening was the wedding of our dear friends Salva and Aaron. I cannot begin to tell you how fantastic this wedding was. It was at Entrepots Dominion by the Atwater Market, the ceremony took place outdoors with the perfect city backdrop for their pictures. The service was so beautiful and overflowed with love. The cocktail hour was incredible - the signature cocktails were a gin and ginger beer with apple slices, mango mojitos, and an old fashioned. There was the biggest table of cheese I have ever seen. There were mini burgers, tuna tartare, saffron and shittake mushroom risotto being passed by you every two minutes.

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The reception was stunning, set in an old warehouse there were balls of light everywhere, incredible flower arrangements (the bride and groom are passionate botanists!), the menu cards had the guests name and a personalized note written to each person. Don't get me started on the band! The St. Royals from Toronto came and played and, even though this gal typically goes to bed at 9:30, Sam was literally dragging me off the dance floor at 1am to get home to relieve our childcare. What can I say, I love to boogie ;-).  I love weddings, I love the reminder of the commitment Sam and I made to each other, I love meeting new people and learning about the passions and interests of people different from me. I love food and drinks. I love music and dancing. And I love getting a night alone with my man. If I could go to a wedding every weekend (and not be broke, ha!) I would.

Shameless bathroom selfie ;-)

Shameless bathroom selfie ;-)

Thankfully the boys decided to let their "dance until the wee hours of the morn" parents sleep in until 8am, which was desperately needed. Then, en route to the cottage in Vermont we made a quick breakfast pit stop in at our bffs Hannah and Oliver's house. Not only is spending time with Hannah and Oliver one of our favourite things, but Finn and their daughter Cotton have such a special bond so it's always great fun to get the two of them together. And their son Quinn was born on the same day as Atticus, only three hours before, so naturally, they had lots to catch up on :-)

Montreal is such a special place to us. I have been feeling quite nostalgic lately about that beautiful city... the place we learned to be married, where we found out we were expecting, where we had our first child. We went through many monumental things and had many joys and many hardships while we were there. It will always remain one of my favourite places and I love that its just a five hour drive down the 401. À bientôt, Montréal!

For those who have asked, you can find the dress I wore to the wedding HERE.

 

HELLO SEPTEMBER

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SEPTEMBER IS FINALLY here and I am THRILLED about it. It is without a doubt my favourite month. As someone who loves structure and routine I feel as though there is a change in the air! My birthday falls on the first of September (I am officially 27 now!), Finny's birthday is on the 30th of September, it means autumn is underway which means the best fashion, the best weather, root vegetables and apples + everywhere you look is so beautiful because the leaves change colour. We have this gorgeous giant Japanese maple tree outside the front of our house and it turns this incredible fiery red in the fall, I can't wait to show you! Truly, there really isn't anything about this month that I don't love.

Now that summer is over and baby Atticus is six months and we are all sleeping and feel like our normal selves again, I am looking forward to writing a lot more regularly on here. This blog gives me a lot of joy and a lot of life and I am so grateful to all of you who follow along with our daily happenings in the city. As I plan out the next month or so I wondered what you guys want to read more of: family, marriage, recipes, city adventures, travel, cloth diapering, fashion, beauty, etc? Let me know and I can definitely start to include more of those things in the regular posting schedule!

Happy September friends!

LINK ROUNDUP

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On parenting and why this next generation of kids are brats.

Chocolate Peanut Butter Ice Box Cake... Need I say more?

10 insights of remarkable parents.

FYI that fig you're about to eat has a dead wasp inside it.

You know you're a Toronto mama when... this was a hilarious read and I can totally relate!

Teaching your kids body privacy, personal agency and consent starts when they are in diapers.

This seal jumped on a boat to avoid being eaten by orcas... can you imagine!?

ATTICUS | 6 MONTHS

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TODAY MY SWEET babe is half a year old. *Insert sobbing emoji face*. But seriously, the past six months have literally flown by. I didn't manage to get a "Atticus five months" post done so consider this a recap on the past two months with our littlest boy.

Atticus is smiling left, right and center. He is SO expressive and his eyes go into these little half moons when he is smiling big. He coos and tries to mimic the sounds you make (so naturally I say "mama mama mama" to him all day long ;-) )  He gets so excited when Dada walks in the door, immediately smiling big and kicking his little legs in excitement! He also LOVES watching Finny and smiles and giggles at him all day long.

We have nicknamed him Grabicus because he is so fast and will have the glasses off of your face or a fist full of hair before you have a moment to stop him. He is rolling all the time and is so close to crawling.

Much to Finny's dismay he has started to take an interest in all of the toys, not just the "baby" toys, so we are learning a lot about sharing and taking turns these days.

He has started eating solids and is such a champ. He still nurses four times a day (every four hours) and is eating a small breakfast and then a big lunch and dinner. Meal time is one of my favourite times of day since both boys are at the table and we talk for about 30 minutes while we all eat, such a special time of getting to know both my boys even better.

He travels really well in the car and we have done multiple trips to cottages and to Montreal! He even got to go on his first boat ride a few weeks ago (which he cried and then fell asleep through haha)

Atticus is a MASTER SLEEPER. He is officially sleeping 13 hours at night + two 2 hour naps during the day. We are all feeling rested and mostly back to normal, and I am so excited to move him into the boys room soon!

Atti boy, we love you so very much. I am so proud of you and I love getting to know you better and better every day!