Hi! I'm Hanna and I blog over at at hannabecks.com. I'm a wife and mom to 14 month old Benjamin. I'm so excited to be a part of this series on Momo in the 6, sharing what motherhood has taught me. I love lists: they're so simple for my mom scatter-brain to wrap my head around, so I made a list of my top 5 tidbits of advice for new moms. I hope you're able to draw from my experiences to make your adjustment to motherhood go smoothly.
1. Know it's ok (and quite normal) to be overwhelmed. I think I was a little too naive going into parenthood - I had spent a lot of time with babies and kids and assumed that my transition to life with a baby would be smooth and sweet. It was not. I was not one of the lucky ones who had an easy labour and delivery, my baby did not sleep like an angel from day one and I was beyond exhausted, sore, and so in over my head. I reached out to some friends that had done this before and they encouraged me. Don't compare yourself, your baby or your situation to anyone else. You will be tired. You may likely be hormonal and cry at the drop of a hat. Your tummy will be squishy and your baby will cry for what seems like no reason. All this is normal and will pass with time.
2. Accept as many meals as you are offered. Our small group at church and our families brought us SO MANY meals and it was lovely. We were blessed with a fridge and freezer full of delicious and healthy food from day one. It was so nice to be able to pop food in the microwave or oven and not worry about cooking. All this to say: Never say no to food!
3. Netflix & chill. We BURNEDDDDD through a few Netflix series in those early days (Broadchurch, White Collar, The Mindy Project, to name a few). Our little one was born in the dead of winter and we were quite content to relax at home. Set low expectations for yourself and enjoy some quiet family time at home, guilt free.
4. Say 'yes' to visitors (if you're up to it). I am strongly introverted, so before I had my son, I totally thought I was going to need a lot of space and alone time to recharge. I surprised myself and found that, as much as I'm a homebody, I just about lost my mind when I was at home alone all day with a fussy newborn. My mom graciously came to stay with us for a few days and in that time, I had someone to talk to, someone to help me get out of the house to the mall (without feeling overwhelmed) and someone to help cook, clean, and comfort my baby so the burden wasn't all on me. We also had guests in for short visits almost every day for the first month of Benny's life and, I know that may sound exhausting, but it was just the morale boost we needed as new parents.
5. Savour. Every. Single. Moment. You're probably saying "whomp, whomp! Thaaaanks for the novel advice, Hanna." Everybody and their mother said some variation of the above to me both before I had Benny and when he was a newborn, and after a while, I stopped listening. I remember asking, how can I enjoy this time when I am hanging on for dear life? All I want is for my baby to get bigger and older so he wouldn't be quite so needy. Selfish, I know, but now I have a fiery toddler who doesn't care for kisses and often squirms away from me, and I would give anything to go back in time to when he slept in my arms, perfectly content. The newborn stage is a vapour, and I cannot stress enough to soak in every minute.
That's it for me! I hope that as a new mom, you find this helpful and that you're able to enjoy the delicious little addition to your family. Motherhood is the hardest job I've ever had, but it's also the sweetest and I wouldn't change a thing.